Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29
So often, we hear negative words flow from the mouths of young people. They are quick to criticize and cut down others. Sometimes, we see ourselves in them and feel about 2 inches tall when we observe their behavior. We know very well that how we act around our children has a lasting impact on them as they become adults.
What a world it would be if students would build up rather than tear down. Instead of making fun of someone’s characteristics and actions, they complimented them on things they appreciated. “I like your hair today,” or “That was a great speech in class,” or even, “Keep working on your free throws; you’ll do better next time.” This way of thinking would be transformative on our campus, in homes, churches, the public, and beyond.
One way to accomplish this is to embody it. Give it a go yourself. Model edifying speech for them. “Thank you for dinner; it was delicious,” or “Your room looks great; I see you made your bed.” As parents, we sometimes think that what is said at home can be an exception to the rule. Since we are just speaking to our spouses about others, it is okay to be negative. Worse, our spouses sometimes receive the brunt of our negativity. Let us always strive to think before we speak.
Another way is to help your children remember to practice this daily. As you drive home or sit around the dinner table, ask them about their comments towards fellow students. Be sure to commend them when you hear that positive, uplifting comments have been used instead of the typical negativity. It may even start to manifest among siblings. Now, wouldn’t that be something?
Let’s encourage our children to give Christ-like speech as they talk to and about others. Encourage and model this, and it will send a transforming message to your children.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
-Timothy Pearce
